Aldous Huxtable

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kiamatthews:

So there’s a thing I’ve been noticing. I thought it was just my (well-documented) terrible luck with men, but in recent chats with some ladies, I’ve gotten the idea that this thing is a real thing.

We’re at a point in our hetero social progress that it’s (mostly) accepted that both men and women…

REBUTTAL:

• First: prouuudofyou. Word to Adina.
• Second: I can say with utter conviction and passion that your claim is basically legit. I’ve been in several situations where the gal-in-question wants round 2, 3, or (this only happened once, I ain’t even gon’ lie) 4, and I gave her one of these: when in my head, I was really going like this:

Here’s why:

1. History: Until recently (as in, like 2005), it was UNHEARD OF for a girl to outwardly express her sexual demands and the ones who did were “sluts” or did it to get attention from boys. (That may be a generalization, but trust that I wouldn’t say it if this topic hasn’t come up amongst my peers and I.)
2. The Bear Trap:  We freak out because we think you’re only saying you want to keep it casual when you don’t. Because girls out there say that. So want to avoid the Bear Trap? Simply do the following: SAY IT WITHIN THE FIRST :25 SECONDS OF MAKING OUT. Yes, it should be on us to follow-up. No, we never do. Who knows?  I have no idea. I do know that as we get older, there’s a lot of nervous “man, I wish her married/engaged friend would SHUTTHEFUCKUPALREADY about her wedding/engagement” thoughts then there used to be and that makes guys uneasy.
3. Lack of overall comprehension: Blame it on traditional gender roles or whatever, but the last time I was faced with a “casual-only/let’s see where this goes” type of deal, I was SO confused and proclaimed that we were “dating” when we CLEARLY were just boning. That’s my bad.
4. Sheer Lack of Stamina: As much as I would love to get in a 12-orgasm session like some of you marathoners out there, you have got to be out of your got-damn MIND if you think I’m going to be down for epic 4-hour sessions on the reg. Especially if you’re one of these “it takes you 45 minutes to get off*, but only if the barometric pressure is on point” types.

• Third: If anyone would like to rebuttal this rebuttal in the interest of opening up lanes of communication, I’m down to hear from you. 

*Speaking for myself here: If you’re even in the general ballpark of getting off, make this point known so that I can make sure I don’t disturb your groove. Communication is key.

(via thatwhitebitch)

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   Ah! Sara! This girl

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    my entire adult existence.

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27. pasky said: I say BOTH men and women -players in general- are only sure of the casual nature of impending sex if they are the ones to initiate. If a tootandboot wants a repeat without explicit no strings, then you gotta assume they caught some feelings.
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    REBUTTAL: prouuudofyou. Word to Adina. Second: I can say with utter conviction and passion that your claim is basically...

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35. kwalsh said: Not totally the same, but I recently turned a guy’s invite to go over to his place after the 2nd date (I was really tired) and he texted me”im really glad you turned me down!” like saying no to sex right away made me more wifely or something. DUDES!
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43. raelynne said: so you get down, &then 5 minutes later when you’re ready to go again &the guy is all “whaaaa?” yeah…that happens. DTF! i also had an ex tell me that i liked sex too much and was thus suspicious, despite that (at the time) that ex was The First.
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46. tessastrain said: I think that must be it, because I’ve had this exact same problem. One guy and I did repeat eventually, but it was months after the first time, so I think his only reservation was that he thought I wanted something serious.
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    think from an evolutionary perspective,...totally makes sense for guys to be weird about...

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